A Jar Of The Good Things
PUBLISHED: 16:41 02 January 2014 | UPDATED: 16:55 02 January 2014
“Let the good times roll..... but not out of sight”
It’s 2014, a new year, new start and 12 untouched months to conquer. Some of us began 2014 with clear heads and some with heads struggling to remember why they have marker pen up their arms or a lemon wedge in their purse.
Reflection is a key word I would use to describe New Years Eve; people sum up their year by going through key events or milestones and often think of how they have changed through the seasons. I also do this but maybe in a slightly different way, by opening a jar which for the 2013 was holding all the good things that happened to be through the year. It was the first year I had done this and it really lifted my mood and got be excited for the count down the midnight.
The reason I had decided to create ‘A Jar Of The Good Things’ is that I found we remember the bad things too easily and forget the good things too fast. I did wonder back in 2012 why we did this, so I did a little research and found from www.livescience.com that the reason we tend to remember bad memories more is because our emotions influence how we process memories. The article written by Andrea Thompson states that if an emotion such as fear or angry is triggered the memory network narrows in on what the cause is; maybe being like a form of defense searching out the threat or similar to when we skim the pages of a book we have read over and over just to get to certain parts which interest or evoke emotion.
As forgetting the good things isn’t something we can help doing, using something to preserve the fleeting moments can make it easier not to loose them.
The jar can be personal and just for you or they could be larger and something for whole household to contribute to. It can be as creatively decorated as you like or just left plain with the words ‘Good Things’ on the lid.
Put it in a place where it is accessible to everyone or a place most commonly visited; equip it with plenty of paper notes and pens and watch the jar fill over the year.
On New Years Eve empty the jar and read the little bits of happiness from the last year.
I actually found myself cracking open the jar during days when the world didn’t seem to be on my side and randomly picking a piece of paper, it lifted my mood and gave me the motivation.